Things that are not okay, volume I of several

Making other people feel small... if you are a good person, it will not make you feel any bigger.
Saying things about others that would upset you to hear second-hand about yourself.
Raising your voice to inspire fear in people you care about.
Settling for less that what you feel like you deserve.
Being unsure of what you deserve.
Thinking you deserve less than you do.
Thinking you deserve something that you are not necessarily entitled to.
    These things apply to many aspects of life. Love, respect, gratitude.
Not being honest about the way you feel with your significant other.
Not being honest about the way you feel with yourself.